The Family Unit

(Gen.1:26-28),

(Gen.2:18,21-24)

(Gen. 4)

We have seen the first created human beings becoming parents and raisng young’uns. A little while in this thing called life we see one becoming a murder. One being murdered. One turning to God.

We live in a society today that has little regard for the honor and sanctity of marriage as God designed it. In an effort to undermine the sacred values in which this great nation was founded on; Satan has made an all-out attack on the family. It is evidenced in the number of divorces among Christian families, the number of those who feel cohabitation is alright under certain circumstances. It is evidenced in the way God’s people have failed to esteem the lofty position of marriage and family due to compromise.

So the question is this. Is marriage is still viable in modern society? The answer is yes. Marriage is still the best Idea because it is God’s Idea. He created it, designed it, established it and define it parameters. God established marriage as a permanent relationship, the union of two separate people – a man and woman -Into “one flesh”. God established it as the first and most foundational and fundamental building block of society. The Bible contains God’s principles and plan for achieving quality and health in family life. If we want to experience marriage the way it was designed to be, first of all we need a vital relationship with God and also we must take very seriously the Bible as it relates to the family.

I would like for us to take a fresh look at God’s design for the family, to reestablish a Godly standard and perspective to this divine institution we are allowed to be a part of. I would like for those of us who have faltered in keeping with the Holy-Standards of God design for family to be road blocks, steering others away from the traps we have succumbed to.

  • Where did the idea of family originate? In the very heart of God.
    • In the Garden, God Himself instituted and ordained marriage at the very beginning of human history.
      • The world has no authority over marriage or what it consist of.
      • God did not create marriage to be an Alice and Eve or an Adam and Steve event. He created woman for man and man for women, and I for one am glad of it.
    • The homosexual agenda has invaded our homes through what is promoted as entertainment, our schools though fear of law suits, even our minds through the new toleration movement.
      • The world has deemed it an alternative lifestyle, whereas the bible has declared it as any other sin; rebellion against a Holy Creator.
    • Since the plan didn’t sweep across the world the way they had hoped for, there are many who still stand for the truth and teach it to their children and grandchildren, they had to devise another component to their plot.
      •  Gender neutral. 
    • The humanistic heterosexual movement of cohabitation has done just as much if not more damage.
      • Because it is not viewed in the same light as a homosexual couple it is more acceptable to many.
      •  Marriage is not a piece of paper or a ceremony. It is the creation submitting and surrendering to the ordain plan from the creator God.
      • Sadly, time and time again it has been proven that couples who live together have a higher rate of divorce, yet still they feel it wont happen to them.
    • The feminist movement (Gen 3:16) (that came out of women being tired of being treated like second class citizens) has had a devastating impact on the family. 
      • Like any movement that separates itself from God’s truth it goes to far one way or another. A quick look around will reveal there are far less men today and way more substitutes.
    • According to Scripture marriage is ordained by God as an intimate and permanent partnership between a man and a woman in which the two become one in the whole of life.
      •  Marriage is the sacred and lifelong union of a man and a woman giving themselves to each other in love and trust. 
      • Anything other is derived from vain, depraved imagination.
    • Next to salvation, Marriage is the most important affair in one’s life.
      • We can conclude from this account in Genesis that marriage is God’s idea, designed and instituted by the Creator.
    • Why did God create marriage?
    • (Ge 2:18) And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. 
    • In these verses we also discover that at the heart of God’s design for marriage is companionship and intimacy.
      • To enjoy one another’s company. Doing things together.
    • So many start out separate.
      • Prenuptial agreements, bank accounts, lands…
        • I understand sometimes one can’t handle money and you need to set up some safe guards. Lands often are tied with other family, but if you can’t trust the gal or guy with what you have; children, money, things, you’re an idiot if you marry them.
      • This is the idea behind what God said( Ge 2:24) Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
        • It takes work, it takes sacrifice, it takes dying to self.
        • Satisfying marriage is all giving and no taking.
      • Marriage is a gift from our heavenly Father given so that husband and wife may enrich and encourage each other in every area of their life together
    • Marriage is for procreation, to continue the human race. But also God designed sexual expression to help married couples build intimacy and permanent bond.
      • Not just to raise children, but Godly children. God spoke specifically how we are to teach, train and be examples for our children.
        • Seems like a trend I see in many parents life is once their son or daughter say a prayer, get baptized their concerns begin to alter.
        • It becomes more important for them to have friends, be popular, have etiquette, be kool,  than to be disciplined spiritually, understand God is calling us to be Holy, which brings true lasting happiness
      • Here is a sobering statement. Why do our kids act like…
        • Their modeling what they see before them.
    • Another startling thing becoming very evident, parents are not parenting.
      • Because of this worlds pressure and demand placed on the family in most household, both parents work.
      • Young’uns are placed in day cares or others houses.
      • Then when time is given them instead of coaching, training, teaching, they just tell their kids to do a task and rarely check to see how or even if it gets done.
      • Parenting takes time and investment rather you work or not.
    • Marriage is the firmest foundation for building a family and then society and Nation.
      • Marriage mirrors God’s covenant relationship with His people.
        • God desires that we develop and nurture a personal, interactive relationship with Him.
    • Marriage Is A Platform To Practice The Same Qualities Or Characteristics Of Christ.
      • Remember, Marriage is the sacred and lifelong union of a man and a woman giving themselves to each other in love and trust.
      • Marriage is the full expression and design of God’s image in human beings. 
      • Marriage is created out of divine order, is based on a covenant relationship, reflects our relationship with God and truly has a greater impact in our lives than many have assumed.
      • It signifies the mystery of the union between Christ and the Church.
  • The Main Purpose Of Marriage Is That Through Your Marriage You Become Transformed To The Image Of Jesus Christ.

I know there are many who have suffered divorce, broken relationships all this messed up world has to offer. We know according to God’s word He hates divorce. You know what He hates all sin and has made a remedy for it. Through the blood of Jesus you can find forgiveness and cleansing. You’re not second rate, not threw away. 

You’re thankful for who?!

Most people when you ask them what they are thankful for they will say, “I am thankful for my family!” Little children will name off a list of toys and toss mommy and daddy in there. Most Christians will start off with being thankful for the saving grace of Jesus Christ and the list goes on from there.

November will be here before we know it and Facebook will be loaded with the “what I am thankful for” ever day for a month, from who knows how many people. Almost everyone one who does this names the wonderful blessings in their lives, the people they love and who love them back, the vacation they got to take this year or the one coming up. You get the gist. It’s always positive stuff. No one ever says I’m thankful because my husband had to go to the hospital this year, or my sister got shot this year, or that I have a humongous wart on the bottom of my foot that makes me limp. Nope, not gonna hear that from people. At least not social media people.

I refer back to Sunday School a lot these days. This is where it really starts! The building blocks, or Legos of a Christians understanding of the Bible. But you can’t just go to Sunday School and expect to gain expert knowledge of Scripture. You have to do some studying of you own, and pray for understanding. Lately though in Sunday School we have been in Luke, we have made it to Chapter 9. In a week or so we’ll get to Chapter 10. Jesus is going to start his journey to Jerusalem. So I decided to stop, go back and do a recap.

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Listening this morning about when Jesus called the twelve, all the names were read, the last of course being “Judas Iscariot who also became a traitor.” (Luke 6:16) Then my brain, lovely creature that it is, had multiple thoughts at one time. Which I am sharing with you now.

Jesus chose Judas, I believe knowing what he would do. Jesus knew why He(Jesus) was here, He came here for a purpose. He knew who Judas was in his(Judas’) heart, all the time. He still chose him to be apart of his ministry, to be in charge of the money, to be close by his side.

Yet when we as Christians read about Judas we sit back and think how could he, why did he? If we were that close we might have done what Peter did but we would never have done what Judas did!! We think so low of Judas, not realize where we would be with out his part in all of this.

I’m sure if he had not done what he had done someone else would, but that is speculation and we aren’t going there. My point in all of this is, yes I am truly thankful for My Lord and Savior Jesus Christ and everything he has done for me, and continues to do for me, on a daily basis, but have I ever thought to be thankful for Judas.

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I spoke earlier about a husband in the hospital, a sister being shot and a wart on a foot. These are all bad things that have happened to myself or someone I know. I have watch though as Jesus has taken the messes we have gotten ourselves into picked us up, brushed us off and not only were we and our family better off after the fact but our relationships are growing in a better direction.

It is hard to see the big picture when we can only see straight ahead. Good thing Jesus is in heaven and can see the whole thing. It is awesome for us to be thankful for the things in our lives. But when it all starts hitting the fan and splattering on the walls, remember that the clean up crew is going to be thankful, because that’s job security for them. When the garbage is piled up and you’ve taken it out, the trash pick up guys are thankful as well.

Our perspective on things and how we think about them needs to change I believe. November is approaching fast, so when those thankful list start popping up take time to truly be thankful for the things that made a difference in you life this year, not just the things that made you happy. Be thankful for the those people that you might not like and who test your patience on a daily basis, because they have made you a better person.

Thank you for reading, may His Son shine on you and yours.

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