The Family Unit



(Gen. 4)

We have seen the first created human beings becoming parents and raisng young’uns. A little while in this thing called life we see one becoming a murder. One being murdered. One turning to God.

We live in a society today that has little regard for the honor and sanctity of marriage as God designed it. In an effort to undermine the sacred values in which this great nation was founded on; Satan has made an all-out attack on the family. It is evidenced in the number of divorces among Christian families, the number of those who feel cohabitation is alright under certain circumstances. It is evidenced in the way God’s people have failed to esteem the lofty position of marriage and family due to compromise.

So the question is this. Is marriage is still viable in modern society? The answer is yes. Marriage is still the best Idea because it is God’s Idea. He created it, designed it, established it and define it parameters. God established marriage as a permanent relationship, the union of two separate people – a man and woman -Into “one flesh”. God established it as the first and most foundational and fundamental building block of society. The Bible contains God’s principles and plan for achieving quality and health in family life. If we want to experience marriage the way it was designed to be, first of all we need a vital relationship with God and also we must take very seriously the Bible as it relates to the family.

I would like for us to take a fresh look at God’s design for the family, to reestablish a Godly standard and perspective to this divine institution we are allowed to be a part of. I would like for those of us who have faltered in keeping with the Holy-Standards of God design for family to be road blocks, steering others away from the traps we have succumbed to.

  • Where did the idea of family originate? In the very heart of God.
    • In the Garden, God Himself instituted and ordained marriage at the very beginning of human history.
      • The world has no authority over marriage or what it consist of.
      • God did not create marriage to be an Alice and Eve or an Adam and Steve event. He created woman for man and man for women, and I for one am glad of it.
    • The homosexual agenda has invaded our homes through what is promoted as entertainment, our schools though fear of law suits, even our minds through the new toleration movement.
      • The world has deemed it an alternative lifestyle, whereas the bible has declared it as any other sin; rebellion against a Holy Creator.
    • Since the plan didn’t sweep across the world the way they had hoped for, there are many who still stand for the truth and teach it to their children and grandchildren, they had to devise another component to their plot.
      •  Gender neutral. 
    • The humanistic heterosexual movement of cohabitation has done just as much if not more damage.
      • Because it is not viewed in the same light as a homosexual couple it is more acceptable to many.
      •  Marriage is not a piece of paper or a ceremony. It is the creation submitting and surrendering to the ordain plan from the creator God.
      • Sadly, time and time again it has been proven that couples who live together have a higher rate of divorce, yet still they feel it wont happen to them.
    • The feminist movement (Gen 3:16) (that came out of women being tired of being treated like second class citizens) has had a devastating impact on the family. 
      • Like any movement that separates itself from God’s truth it goes to far one way or another. A quick look around will reveal there are far less men today and way more substitutes.
    • According to Scripture marriage is ordained by God as an intimate and permanent partnership between a man and a woman in which the two become one in the whole of life.
      •  Marriage is the sacred and lifelong union of a man and a woman giving themselves to each other in love and trust. 
      • Anything other is derived from vain, depraved imagination.
    • Next to salvation, Marriage is the most important affair in one’s life.
      • We can conclude from this account in Genesis that marriage is God’s idea, designed and instituted by the Creator.
    • Why did God create marriage?
    • (Ge 2:18) And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. 
    • In these verses we also discover that at the heart of God’s design for marriage is companionship and intimacy.
      • To enjoy one another’s company. Doing things together.
    • So many start out separate.
      • Prenuptial agreements, bank accounts, lands…
        • I understand sometimes one can’t handle money and you need to set up some safe guards. Lands often are tied with other family, but if you can’t trust the gal or guy with what you have; children, money, things, you’re an idiot if you marry them.
      • This is the idea behind what God said( Ge 2:24) Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
        • It takes work, it takes sacrifice, it takes dying to self.
        • Satisfying marriage is all giving and no taking.
      • Marriage is a gift from our heavenly Father given so that husband and wife may enrich and encourage each other in every area of their life together
    • Marriage is for procreation, to continue the human race. But also God designed sexual expression to help married couples build intimacy and permanent bond.
      • Not just to raise children, but Godly children. God spoke specifically how we are to teach, train and be examples for our children.
        • Seems like a trend I see in many parents life is once their son or daughter say a prayer, get baptized their concerns begin to alter.
        • It becomes more important for them to have friends, be popular, have etiquette, be kool,  than to be disciplined spiritually, understand God is calling us to be Holy, which brings true lasting happiness
      • Here is a sobering statement. Why do our kids act like…
        • Their modeling what they see before them.
    • Another startling thing becoming very evident, parents are not parenting.
      • Because of this worlds pressure and demand placed on the family in most household, both parents work.
      • Young’uns are placed in day cares or others houses.
      • Then when time is given them instead of coaching, training, teaching, they just tell their kids to do a task and rarely check to see how or even if it gets done.
      • Parenting takes time and investment rather you work or not.
    • Marriage is the firmest foundation for building a family and then society and Nation.
      • Marriage mirrors God’s covenant relationship with His people.
        • God desires that we develop and nurture a personal, interactive relationship with Him.
    • Marriage Is A Platform To Practice The Same Qualities Or Characteristics Of Christ.
      • Remember, Marriage is the sacred and lifelong union of a man and a woman giving themselves to each other in love and trust.
      • Marriage is the full expression and design of God’s image in human beings. 
      • Marriage is created out of divine order, is based on a covenant relationship, reflects our relationship with God and truly has a greater impact in our lives than many have assumed.
      • It signifies the mystery of the union between Christ and the Church.
  • The Main Purpose Of Marriage Is That Through Your Marriage You Become Transformed To The Image Of Jesus Christ.

I know there are many who have suffered divorce, broken relationships all this messed up world has to offer. We know according to God’s word He hates divorce. You know what He hates all sin and has made a remedy for it. Through the blood of Jesus you can find forgiveness and cleansing. You’re not second rate, not threw away. 

No Worries (Right Living)

Philip. 4:6-9

Counselling. I have realized in my years as a pastor when it comes to counselling that no matter how schooled you are, no matter how personable you are, no matter how many you have been able to help in some way or fashion, counselling is dependent on ONE thing.  The desire of the one being counselled. 


You must have a desire to do, be better than what you are.

When it comes to being controlled by worry, I can be the most eloquent speaker. We can do study after study. Research every great spiritual leader. Until you put into practice what you already know it will be like most other solutions we look to God for. 

God has set forth conditions that we must meet in order to win the war with worry. Right Praying, right thinking and right living. Simply put, putting into practice what God’s word says.

  • (V9) learned.
    • Gk. Word- (mathano) learn by inquiry or observation.
      • This is really the part of Christianity that I feel the majority either have never been taught or simply don’t give a rip.
      • Something is required of you!
    • I feel the reason the Body of Christ is inundated with spiritual retards, is the majority never put into practice none of what they learn.
      • Why do you think it is so easy for many to just pick up and go?
      • Why does those who have professed to be saved for so many years struggle with the basics of what they believe? 
      • Why when trials and temptations come, so many revert back to their old nature or attempt to combine the two?
    • Not willing to learn.
      • I understand this a lot more than I want to admit.
      • I was not a good student. I had great teachers. Great parents that provided me the opportunity to learn.
      • I simply didn’t give a rip. I have suffered for it greatly.
    • I still don’t curl up with a good book. Like to study and read. 
      • But because of what God has done for me and continues to do in me, I have made it a discipline.
      • I enjoy learning how I can please the one who saved me. He means that much to me.
  • Second part of this verse is received. 
    • You cannot put into practice something you don’t buy into.
      • You don’t buy into anything you don’t see value in.
      • When you learn and receive something you take it as your own.
      • You know it inside and out.
      • It actually means to take to one’s self. Personal, intimate.
    • Paul is telling these believers he recognizes not only have they learned, but they also received. 
      • It is obvious because when you take something to heart you put it into practice.
      • It shows up in everyday situations.
    • If it is not showing up in the good times, the bad times and times in-between.
      • Could it be you never took the time to learn it or never received it as anything of value!
  • The last part of this remedy for right living is; heard and observed.
    • Reflect for just a moment. How many sermons has God allowed you to glean from?
      • How many opportunities to learn, Sunday School, life groups, training union, Wed.nite services, revivals men and women meetings.
      • He provided them rather you thought they were of value or not.
    • Jesus had His disciples three years. 
      • He poured into them, taught them, and was an example to them. 
      • Then gave them the Holy Spirit to teach, remind, lead.
    • You might not have had the Son of God physically alongside you but look at all the examples He has afforded you.
      • Parents, grandparents, siblings, kin, friends, teachers, preachers, bible teachers. The list goes on and on.
    • It is not that we haven’t heard, haven’t seen. So what made the difference?
      • In Hebrews we are told about those whom the Lord God delivered form slavery in Egypt.
      • Heb 4:2, “For unto us was the gospel preached, as well as unto them: but the word preached did not profit them, not being mixed with faith in them that heard it.”
      • These saw the great miracles God performed through His servant Moses. They were called God’s chosen. Yet many of them did not find His rest.
    • They refused to receive it. Have faith, buy into it, or take it as their own.
  • God has laid out for us a master plan to conquer enemies like worry.
    • I tell you a truth. If your life lines up more with those who refuse to receive. You have something far more to be concerned with than overcoming worry in your life.
      • You need to quit convincing yourself you’re alright before you get all left.
      • God dearly loves you and really wants you to know Him and his plan for your life that nothing you can dream up can rival. TODAY!
    • For those of you who have continued to grow in your love and trust for the living God, we must have right praying, right thinking, and right living to escape the snare of the devil called worry.